A person exists, survives and pursues one’s own happiness. Hence, everyone has the right of freedom, equality and happiness. A PIR exists in the form of a person, yet achieves one’s own meaning and value within the relationship with others. Having our children as parents, we do not only pursue our own happiness, but also pursue the happiness of parents with meaning and value experiencing happiness, anger, sadness, and pleasure of rearing children. Through recognizing children’s expressions, expressing to them, and having them in the mind of parents, one’s mind and psychology operate as a PIR. This is the self-actualization of a PIR.

             A person pursues his or her own happiness through survival whereas a PIR generates his or her own happiness through self-actualization. ‘自’ meaning 'self' and  ‘我’ meaning 'me' form the word 'self' in the Chinese character, and self-actualization is pursuing the actualization of his or her own meaning and value of existence.

             The prime priority in achieving self-actualization is to maintain physical health. Physical health can lead to survival and enable one’s own existence. One should exist as a person above anything. The subsequent priority is mental health. When our mind is relaxed and tranquil, we can sense happiness while creating meaning and value of our own existence. When we have these meaning and value of ours, then we naturally tend to be stimulated with the intellectual desire. The psychology of memory begins to work and expands the amount of information in one’s own memory. It is not simply for accumulating knowledge but also for achieving self-actualization through stirring up the intellectual desire with much curiosity. Knowledge, skills, experiences, and enlightenment can all fall under the category of the intellectual desire.

             Children are better at pursuing self-actualization. In our memory, there are not only positive memories but also negative memories. Adults have too many interfering thoughts when fulfilling their intellectual desire, whereas children lack memories in their lives and try to fill their memory with everything they experience, whether it be positive or negative. Therefore, it is beneficial to have children create as many memories as possible. Having only positive memories as children, they will not have the capacity to distinguish right from wrong and suffer from more stress and wounds when they become adults. Children should be exposed to both positive and negative experiences and remember them. When they learn why it is wrong, this memory becomes their valuable data. Stress and wounds should not be remembered as mere bad memories. What was bad or wrong and what was painful or hurting need to be accurately processed so that children can establish their own thought standards, which will be crucial for their self-actualization.

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