I have been counselling for the last 17 years specializing in infidelity^[1] and psychological disorders. At present, I am directing various training programs on the mind^[2], the mind of xes^[3], the treatment of the mind^[4], the treatment of the mind of xes^[5], the treatment for sexual functions^[6], and the treatment for infidelity^[7] at Korea Institute of Psycho-education^[8]. Analysing the psychological disorders induced by extra-marital affairs and learning that the psychology of man and woman interact in such complicated ways, I have also studied the fundamental principles of human psychology. Psychological disorders caused by extra-marital affairs are extremely complicated, and the traditional psychological theories or therapies have not been able to successfully deal with them. They are accompanied by various separate psychological disorders, marital conflicts, sexual problems, family issues, social issues, and economic issues. I have learned that these psychological disorders cannot be cured without the knowledge of the principles of the operation of human mind and psychology.

             I have introduced some different psychological notions in the Theory of Mimind instead of using the traditional psychological theories. I separated the consciousness and unconsciousness from psychology and divided the unconsciousness as habits and the energy of mind. The Theory of Mimind views that human psychology operates based on different workings of the mind with its pursuit of different kinds of happiness between man and woman.

             Human psychology can also be classified into the psychology of perception, that of memory, and that of expression. In the realm of the mind of perception, the consciousness is at work; in the mind of memory, both the consciousness and unconsciousness; and in the mind of expression, the unconsciousness. And the generally known defense mechanisms  are the patterns resulting from habits and are not considered the actual defense mechanisms. In the Theory of Mimind, there are only rejection defense mechanism and acceptance defense mechanism.

             There are three standards or rules in the Theory of Mimind regarding human mind. Firstly, it is the standard of the pursuit of happiness, meaning man pursues the future happiness while woman, the present happiness. Whether the incoming information meets the standard of happiness or not determines the occurrence of emotion and the operation of psychology.

             Secondly, it is the defense mechanism of positive and negative emotions, the defense mechanism for pursuing the standard of happiness. Man uses rejection for his negative moods, acceptance for his positive moods. Woman uses acceptance as her defense for her negative feelings, rejection for her positive feelings. Thus, man can hardly recall his negative moods but remembers positive moods, while woman cannot remember her positive feelings but remembers her negative feelings.

             Lastly, it is the standard of xesmind. For a man, xesmind operates in the process of generating passion, and for a woman in the process of generating love. Thus, man's passion is manifested through sexual actions, but woman perceives sexual actions as love, operating xesmind in the process of generating love.

             With these three standards, human mind takes control over the consciousness and the unconsciousness so that they operate all emotions to comply with the standard of happiness. This is the standard of human psychology and the core concept of the Theory of Mimind.

             Psychological disorders are the classifications of the abnormal functions of human psychology comparing its function against the standard of the mind. The occurrence of psychological disorders does not simply imply unhappiness since they are not sorted by the criterion of happiness or unhappiness or even by that of treatment. If one still can be happy with others despite psychological disorders, they are not an intended recipient of treatment and also it is not misfortune. But if one is not happy with oneself and makes others unhappy because of psychological disorders, then they become the intended recipient of psychotherapy. Therefore, we need to remove our bias and preconceived ideas regarding various psychological disorders through the understanding on psychological disorders. What seems good on the outside is not always good in nature, and the same goes for the bad. This is the philosophy of the Theory of Mimind.