I thought I was committing infidelity since I was seeing a woman secretly and making phone calls.
However, I had never imagined that my wife would get so enraged and felt such pain.
I didn't know it would cause her to suffer from even physical sickness.
I was so worried but just didn't know what to do. She became so sick due to my wrongdoing.
Now, I can understand why she was so enraged and hurt.
I began to think that I should change.
I understand why relationship addiction develops and what behaviors cause it.
I also understand how my behaviors caused her rage and pain.
I was in a psychological disorder and now I am learning about my mistakes.
I think my efforts will help my wife reduce her rage and wounds little by little.
I want to live as a new person starting fresh. I want my wife to restore health and happiness.
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Posted by Korea Institute of Psycho-Education
Date 2023-11-02
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There are two view points to look at infidelity.
The first one is the view point of the husband.
99% of husbands who commit infidelity try to avoid stress based on perception disorder.
They usually try to deny or justify their wrongdoings. They hardly realize their fault and try to take responsibility. They usually repeat infidelity.
You have done wrong, but you understand the pain of post traumatic stress and your problem of psychological disorder.
You are trying to help your wife recover and live a happy life.
You are one of 1% of men who are wise enough to realize the situation correctly.
The next is the view point of the wife.
Most wives choose to take practical measures such as filing lawsuits, taking counseling, or getting a divorce.
They aggravate post traumatic stress in the process and aggravate the husband's condition.
They end up living an unhappy or a destructive life.
Some of them are wise enough to choose to treat their condition and build happiness ability. They can give their husbands an opportunity to treat themselves.
You are going through a precious time of your life learning about the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology.
You understand how much pain your wife is suffering from and and are learning about what to do have a good marriage and live happily together.
Please, focus on all the tasks and keep doing self-check on progress.
Keep your initial intention and keep having hope for happiness.