My husband literally begged and begged me to marry him and we got married.
I had never imagined that he would commit infidelity.
My life and my family collapsed when I discovered his infidelity.
I could barely eat one meal a day. I suffered from the pain of death.
I couldn't understand why such a thing happened to me.
I couldn't understand what the problem was in my life at all.
What more would he want?
I exploded casually being violent with harsh language.
I blamed my husband for leaving my children and me.
I filed a lawsuit against the adulteress and collected evidence.
I met the adulteress and warned her.
I made efforts to make my husband come back to me.
Nothing worked.
He kept committing infidelity.
I repeated what I used to do.
His strategies for infidelity evolved.
He came back home after 1 year but he would call the police whenever he felt stressed.
He got violent eventually and got a suspended jail sentence.
Everything was meaningless so I decided to let him go.
I was thinking about divorce and lawsuits even while I was taking the treatment.
However, I am not doing any of them. .
I just focus on my treatment to get my self back.
I used to be a happy person and smile all the time.
What happened to my family for a few years flashes before my eyes.
I don't feel raged or angry.
I just focus on my treatment since only I can protect myself and my family.
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Posted by Korea Institute of Psycho-Education
Date 2023-11-23
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However, taking practical measures such as filing lawsuits, getting a divorce, taking counseling, and developing dependency only aggravates your condition and doesn't solve any problem.
Doing anything without treat post traumatic stress aggravates your husband's condition, too.
You were wise to make a right decision for your life before you destroy your life.
As you treat yourself, you and your children restore happiness and give your husband an opportunity to recover.
It is important to keep making efforts for complete cure.
You must put priority on your treatment over anything else.
Then, you can decide what to do with your relationship with your husband.
Please, remember the past when you were in pain and when you first decided on the treatment.
You can use your own writing to gather up your will power whenever you feel lost.
You will soon become happy and live happily with your children.